What to do when you find yourself in serious schoolwork battles with your child. I f you find yourself in full-on schoolwork battles with your child most days, you are not alone! It’s no big surprise that after a long day of school, most kids would rather be outside playing with their friends, playing video games or riding their bikes than doing their schoolwork. As parents, we WANT our child to do well. We also know how important doing schoolwork is. Schoolwork is one of our child’s responsibilities, and let’s face it, we get anxious when our kids aren’t doing what they are supposed to be doing. So, for many parents, trying to help their child complete schoolwork becomes a major power struggle. Nagging, lecturing, yelling – when our kids don’t follow through on their schoolwork responsibilities, it triggers feelings of anger, guilt and frustration.
Here are 6 things YOU can do as a parent:
1. Understand that you are NOT responsible for the choices your child makes. Doing a good job as a parent means that you have done all that you can do as a responsible person. Once you really get this, you won’t be so anxious about your child’s behaviors, actions, and decisions.
2. You cannot FORCE your child to care, and you cannot FORCE a child to change. Instead, do your best to influence them. Our kids each have their own free will; so trying to force your child to change will eventually turn into a power struggle. Think ‘INSPIRE’, not control. 3. Structure your child’s environment properly to encourage studying. For example, set a fixed amount of time for your child to work quietly on schoolwork every day. Be available to enforce that time, and ensure there are little or few distractions, and no electronics.
4. Show up for your child! If your child is particularly defiant or doesn’t seem to care about consequences, it is your job as a parent to work even harder to develop a positive relationship. No matter how difficult it is, do your best to avoid power struggles. 5. Stick to this simple message: “Your job is to take care of your schoolwork responsibilities. That is my expectation for you. Once you’ve done that each day, you are welcome to do what you would like.” 6. Take some of the emotion out of learning, by HIRING A PROFESSIONAL TUTOR to work with your child. Many children work very well with the support of a good quality tutor – often significantly better than with a parent. Children can enjoy the process of learning!
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